How do I fit in?

It is not about fitting in; rather, it is about being in perfect harmony. Be like water—it takes the shape of any bottle you pour it into. It doesn’t resist; it is formless. And because it is in perfect harmony with whatever it comes into contact with, it ‘fits in’.

We humans can be formless when we live outside of our physical, emotional and mental selves. These selves constantly like and dislike, choose and reject, analyse and say ‘yes’ and ‘no’. So how can we be formless? If we simply live in the spirit self, which is anyway formless, we can fit our body into any form to suit any occasion. Then it doesn’t matter what we eat, where we sleep and who we are with.

What comes in the way of being formless is our so-called identity: family traditions, place of origin, religious denominations, social standing, etc. We create a form with all these conditioning and then find it difficult to fit into that very form. We become so rigid that the slightest of blows results in our folding up and feeling deep pain. But if we are formless, we will simply fold around the fist which throws the blow at us, and cocoon the fist.

For example, if I punch a wooden door, I will end up hurting my hand. It is I, and not the door, that will feel the stress. But if I punch a cloud, the cloud will cocoon my hand because it is formless. That is what love is. When you are formless, you cocoon any insult, any praise, anything that comes your way. You don’t react and you don’t feel the impact of it.

So don’t fit in; be formless. Simply be a ‘nobody’ who belongs everywhere!